How does one deal with rejection? Rejection is subject that many individuals tend to avoid or ignore because it brings up unpleasant emotions which are often painful or traumatic depending on the situation.  It was not until the death of a former acquaintance is when I had to face the reality that the individual that I held on a high pedestal did not have the same feeling towards me.  As I was going over the past events with the acquaintance and other individuals. Instead of me, parting ways with these individuals.  I am tried to conform to their standards in order for me to accept and like by them.  It was until I became comfortable in my own skin is when I was fully able to come to term with rejection. Now, if this event had occurred two- three years ago – I will be an emotional wreck.

A person’s perception of himself/herself is very crucial on how come to term with rejection.  The traumatic emotions associated rejection is rooted in how the individual relates with others. In my case, I had the unrealistic idea that other were superior to me.  Inferiority complex was the driving factor in me being a people pleaser. How I was able to get over the inferiority complex was through individual counseling in which I came to the realization that that the individuals in my life are not perfect and they also are dealing with their own personal issues.  Once, I was able to overcome the inferiority complex, I began to see the world in a new light.

In regards to coming to term with the past acquaintance – I was angry and hurt at the same time. However, I came to the realization that the relationship with the individual was based on false perception from my end, which assisted me in coming term in dealing with the rejection.